20 Quotes from Finally Free (Heath Lambert)

Heath Lambert, author of Finally Free, on how to break porn addiction.
Associate Professor of Biblical Counseling at The Southern Baptist Theological Seminary, Heath Lambert

Besides the Bible, Heath Lambert’s Finally Free is my all-time favorite book on sexual purity. It has been tremendously helpful for me not only as a man who values purity but as a Christian who values purity. Tony Reinke over at DesiringGod.org posted 20 quotes from the book that I thought were really powerful (link). I’ve reposted these quotes and the title for each chapter so you can get a better idea of the book’s contents. I recommend every Christian reading this grab a copy as well as anyone else interested in practical ways to battle lust as told from a Christian perspective. If you want the book but can’t afford it, send me an email and I’ll see what I can do.

Table of Contents:

Chapter 1: Grace as the Foundation in the Fight Against Pornography

Chapter 2: Using Sorrow to Fight Pornography

Chapter 3: Using Accountability to Fight Pornography

Chapter 4: Using Radical Measures to Fight Pornography

Chapter 5: Using Confession to Fight Pornography

Chapter 6: Using Your Spouse (Or Your Singleness) to Fight Pornography

Chapter 7: Using Humility to Fight Pornography

Chapter 8: Using Gratitude to Fight Pornography

Chapter 9: Using a Dynamic Relationship with Jesus to Fight Pornography

Conclusion: A Call to Holiness and Hope

Appendix: Help for Families and Friends of Men Struggling with Pornography

20 Quotes:

“Every instance of treasuring images of sexual immorality in our hearts, every eager glance at pornography, all of our lustful gawking — everything — is paid for by Jesus in his death for sinners.” (21)

“The tide will begin to turn in your struggle against pornography when you begin to grasp forgiving grace and transforming grace, as you learn to repent.” (26)

“Pornography is a plague that has destroyed countless lives and can also destroy yours. The sobering truth is that you do not have the resources to change within yourself.” (27–28)

“Jesus’ grace to change you is stronger than pornography’s power to destroy you. Jesus’ grace is stronger than your own desires to watch sex.” (28)

“Godly sorrow doesn’t fear that people will find out about your sin. Rather, you fear that God — the only person who ultimately matters — always knew. I am a very sinful man in great need of the blood of Jesus to forgive me for all the ways I have failed God.” (39)

“Until God is your chief concern — until sinning against him is what makes your heart break — you will never turn the corner.” (43)

“Employing radical measures is the path to life, while indulging sin is the path to hell. God does not forbid sexual immorality because he wants you to be miserable; God forbids it because sexual immorality leads to brokenness, sadness, emptiness, death, and hell.” (63)

“Though the initial stages of temptation seem innocent, fun, and even enjoyable, eventually the sin of indulging in the adulterous woman of porn will take over your life and consume your time, your strength, and your body (Proverbs 5).” (96)

“I have no statistics on how long the average career is for actresses in pornography, but I’ll bet it’s pretty short. I’m confident there are no porn actresses who are sixty years old. Probably not even forty. Why not? Because selfish men who consume porn like their women young. For such men, there’s no interest in wrinkles, liver spots, or white hair. There’s no attraction in crow’s-feet, varicose veins, and sagging skin. In other words, there’s no interest in real women.” (96)

“God does not ‘hate’ sex; he hates faithless sex with forbidden women, but he loves faithful sexual expressions in the context of marriage. God loves it so much that he commands, not just that it happen, but that it be enjoyed to the point of intoxication.” (99)

“Only arrogant men look at pornography.” (108)

“Men look at pornography out of an arrogant desire to see women in a way that God does not allow. They show arrogant defiance to God’s commands, rejecting the delight of sexual intimacy in marriage and deciding for themselves what they believe is better — looking at naked women in porn. They show arrogant disregard for God’s call to selfless marital love. They show arrogant derision for the female actresses whom they should be seeking to respect as women who need to hear the good news of Jesus. They show arrogant disdain for their own children by hiding their sin and inviting the enemy into their home and their marriage. They show arrogant disrespect toward all those who would be scandalized if their sin were known. The root problem with men who look at porn is not neediness — it is arrogance.” (110)

“It is impossible to look at porn and be humble. Because this is true, it gives us a key weapon in the fight against porn.” (111)

“Porn is the trading of gratitude for greed. Porn trades joy in the reality God has graced you with for greed in the counterfeit world he has not.” (127)

“There are many strategies to pursue this joy. The most significant one is to learn to delight in God above all else.” (130)

“This is the vicious cycle of lust. Lust never has what it wants because it never has enough. Lust steals joy by creating an endless state of discontentment in the constant search for that one next thing you don’t have yet. Lust is never happy because lust is never full.” (130)

“Though you may initially be drawn to Christ out of your great need to be free from pornography, your struggle against this sin is just the beginning of God’s greater purpose in saving you. You are saved, not just to be free from pornography, but to know and experience the joy of walking with Jesus, of following him, and of becoming more and more like him.” (143)

“A living, breathing relationship with the Savior of the world will drive porn out of your life quicker than anything else. When you turn your eyes to Jesus, there isn’t room for anything else in your heart because he fills it up. When you open the blinds of a pitch-black room, the sunlight drives away the darkness.” (144–145)

“Pornography is a wholly selfish act that eclipses the concerns, needs, and well-being of everyone around you (1 Thessalonians 4:3–7).” (153)

“If you are trusting in Jesus, pornography will never have the final say in your life. Forty-five zillion years from now, pornography will be nowhere in your mind as you perpetually behold the beauty of the spotless Lamb who was slain for your sin and mine. There is a day coming — and it is not far away — when you will see Jesus himself. When you see him, he will change you into his perfect likeness.” (158)

Author: DL Admin

A Christian millennial passionate about seeing people live free from the harmful psychological and relational effects of lust.

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